My niece Kendra began this
whole thing last year at my nephew's wedding. At the reception, she asked if I
would serve as the officiant at her wedding the following September. It took me
a half hour to even understand what she was asking. After all, I'm a pretty
public atheist - a job usually performed by clergy doesn't necessarily come to
mind. After I thought about it, though, the skill set all added up: I'm used to
being onstage, I'm good with a mic, and obviously I can help write the
ceremony. All I had to do was come up with an interesting intro, and the ideas
came to me in that first week. Primarily, I had to work in Kendra's favorite
song, "Yellow," and go from there. The wedding, September 8 in
Malibu, was amazing. And here's what I said:
Friends and family!
Welcome. We are gathered here today to initiate and celebrate the marriage of
Kendra Brit Breunling and Stephen Jacob Cornelius. My name is Michael
Vaughn. I am also known as Uncle Mike. (Sung) Your skin Oh yeah your skin and
bones turn into something beautiful You know, you know I love you so You know I
love you soThose lines are from Kendra's favorite song, Yellow, by Coldplay. For years now, I’ve used it as a kind of Bat Signal. If I heard it in a coffeehouse, or if someone sang it at karaoke, I would immediately send Kendra a text: Hey, how you doin?
But let’s think about those
words: “Your skin and bones turn into something beautiful.” That line touches on a marvelous truth about
humans. We’re really just parts and pieces - sinew, muscle, blood, organs – put
together in an extraordinary way. And the pinnacle of this machine is the human
brain, which developed the amazing ability to recognize its own existence, and
to recognize the powerful bonding force that we call love.
A few years ago, a study
concluded that the people you spend the most time with have an actual, physical
effect on the wiring in your brain. This is why your parents are always so
concerned with who you’re hanging out with. I suppose, then, that a wedding is
a way of saying, I like the effect that you have on my brain. Or, put another
way, I like who I am when I’m with you. And I’d like to keep that going for the
rest of our lives.
Beautifully written and delivered!
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